Thanks to my wife's constant reminder, I am still the first guy to give Snowylass flowers.
But yesterday, a boy named Dillon the Gorilla (that's his nick, he likes gorillas and said he'd like to be one, and tries to imitate one) from her school got his dad to buy some flowers and gave it to MY daughter. And said he likes her.
And Yana and Emma, 2 girlfriends (sometimes opponents) of Snowylass in her class, said Dillon wants to marry her, something he apparently didn't deny.
Well, such things aren't exactly new in her school, but it's actually the first time apparently a guy gave a girl flowers.
To other readers of my blog, know that Snowylass is only turning 5, and this is like pre-school we're talking about.
Snowylady, my wife, was with me yesterday when we fetched the kids and saw the flowers, and the boy. And Snowylady had to point out how I am actively ignoring the whole business.
After that, Snowylass mentioned she'd like to make something nice, like a card, for Dillon.
This is too much. I gave her countless presents and she never thought of making a card for the presents I gave her.
Snowylady said I'm jealous.
Am I? Or am I just playing the expected role in this whole business?
They're just kids. Little kids.
*sigh* I felt like I was served an advance warning of how things are going to be, and I just don't know how I'll behave myself when Snowylass is older.
The bright spot for me was when we asked Snowylad who attends the same pre-school whether he likes Dillon. The answer was no. For some reason or other, yesterday, he knocked the bigger boy down, though I couldn't get details out of when and where and why or how it happened.
Snowylad is turning 2.5 years old and has never actually hurt anyone wilfully or intentionally.
I may just have to depend on the little brother to protect his sister.
Men are no good things when it comes to girls. I know. I am one.
Sometimes, I think just having a daughter is payback for a man, for being a man.
Bro, I hope you don't end up like The Rock who says (and I paraphrase) he'll wait for his daughter's prospective dates with a weapon in hand...
ReplyDeleteAnd your last sentence is absolutely correct. Payback's a bitch, innit?
I think most important is my daughter and I have an understanding together and trust each other. Communication, discussion, agreements, and conviction that she shares common values with us.
ReplyDeleteIf I trust her, I don't have to worry about trusting her dates.
Though it'd not hurt if she can "kayo" him ...
I wonder if it ever occurs to girls how worried they can make their dads and some assurances will go a long way ...
ReplyDeleteAlways teach your daughter to defend herself. Although we all know that a man's strength beats a woman's, teaching her to defend herself will instill a confidence in her. What kids don't need to know at that age is that men are far stronger than women, and unfortunately often abuse that strength. There'll be time enough for that later.
ReplyDeleteErm, that's the whole idea about payback.
ReplyDeleteOn a more cheerful note though, if a dad shows his daughter how much he loves her and she in turn learns to return that love, the reminder of her daddy's disappointment, hurt and pain will go a long way in restraining her actions in the future.
Would it help saying "they're just kids"? It may help you to know that your reaction is typical of loving fathers :) (I realise in this sort of things, the dad becomes more 'gan cheong' than the mum..)
ReplyDeleteMay I recommend you the book "What a difference a daddy makes" by Dr Kevin Leman?
I remember declaring to my teacher I intend to marry a classmate during Kindergarten. Classmate in question was not consulted in the matter. But boy was she pretty. Exotic slant to her eyes, sultrily dark and the colour of rose in her cheeks. Sigh.
ReplyDeleteWhere did our Romeo get the flowers by the way?
And yes, writing a card in return is just... I am with you Snowy.
I am still keeping the cards, a letter and a baby photo carefully in a nice tin box. From a girl in his class, and it was not even Valentine's Day. That was, let me see, in Primary 5? or 4? Really can't remember.
ReplyDeleteThe letter was scribbled in kiddy's handwriting, (really cute actually), wanted my son to promise not to be friend with another gal...
Poor girl, she doesn't know ben had no interest on girls, and she' doesnt know too that ben didn't bother to keep the cards, letter and baby photo. And ben had no idea I am still keeping the things - they are mum's pride. ;-)
And what about the box of chocolates he found under his chair on Valentine's Day? He ate all the chocolates, but had no idea who left it there.............
No idea, he just said he got his daddy to buy it for him.
ReplyDeleteI've not seen the dad before, but I saw his mum once, with him, at Toys 'R Us.
And I am anticipating Snowylad to bring me the same problem from the other side, he's a cheeky little one, very cheeky.
ReplyDeleteHe likes pretty girls, and kissed many ladies he met for the first time ... here and there ... like in shops ... and in the aircraft. During our return trip from HK, he smiled to a stewardess, and gave her a hug and a kiss when we were disembarking.
Definitely.
ReplyDeleteFor starters, I am getting her to be more assertive and defend herself against her younger brother who loves her and also likes playing rough and tumble with her.
We've started her on children's ballet half a year ago. I hope to include martial arts along the way as she grows up, but I also will not want to cram her with too many classes.
Perhaps I might have to ask you to take her for "throw her off the deep end" course in it. If her character is like mine, she'll need it and it'll do her good.
I can't deny that I noticed girls pretty early and never had the "aversion" my guy friends had to girls when we were young ...
ReplyDeleteBallet training would complement martial arts training, and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteMuch as I would be glad to give your daughter lessons (gratis), I am not qualified and I can only teach her the most basic stuff. She will also need to cultivate the self-discipline to train her body to reach its potential and the self-control not to abuse that strength and skill.
That said, I'll get back into formal lessons once I move out. Whither taijiquan, tanglangquan, jianfa or wingchun kuen, I wonder?
Do you think Bruce Lee's hybrid product is too ... violent?
ReplyDeleteJeet Kune Do? No, I do not feel it is too violent. But not for a kid her age, and not as her first martial art.
ReplyDeleteI was reading this article about Collin Chou, who appeared in Flashpoint, Huo Yuanjia and one of the Matrix films. I think his insight and advice into martial arts for kids is invaluable.
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/spotlighthealth/2003-11-18-collin_x.htm
If you want violent, try watching some clips on the ancient form of Muay Thai, as well as some MMA clips.
ReplyDeletePersonally I would prefer to train in Krav Maga, solely for street fighting purposes, and for its sheer economy and lethality. But it simply cannot compare to the grace and beauty of traditional CMA styles.
I would recommend you start Snowylass with Wing Chun. If you need more/want more advice, I can consult our Wujiang from CHF for more advice. In real life, he is a CMA instructor and his 師兄, Lee Jun-sum, is one of HK's best Wing Chun exponents.
Thanks for advice. MMA is definitely out.
ReplyDeleteGina Carano (MMA fighter) is hot but that's not the martial arts role model you want for your daughter.
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