I wish birthdays could be rescheduled.
When your only son who is just past 9 months old is sick, upset all the time, halving his food intake, couldn't sleep for more than an hour before crying and waking, you won't be in the mood for celebrating your birthday.
Until last Thursday, the plan was for me to take leave on the day itself, and wifey also got a mandatory offday from her school. And with both children in childcare and infantcare respectively, we were finally going to spend a few romantic couple time together for several hours.
All that went out of the window when after 4 days, Snowylad is still running high temperature off and on, unable to sleep with phlegmy coughs and stuffy nose. We saw the paed *3* times, and each time, she has to prescribe additional medication.
The best to have happened on my birthday itself is that after the 3rd visit, he finally managed to sleep ... for hours. Since going out to celebrate was impossible, I went to get take-out. Wifey had had no appetite for days, and not even her favourite mussels could cheer her.
The spots we were anticipating finally began appearing at the end of the day ... signs that his fever and viral infection were on the way out. It'd take a few days to clear, and until then, Snowylad looks like he's having an early stage of chicken pox. Thankfully, it's not chicken pox, and his infantcare accepted him. We burnt a lot of time-off/leave from work during the last few days.
I'm gonna have him immunised against chickenpox soon. I don't buy into the idea of letting him get infected so that he'll develop immunity.
If there's anything positive from this experience, is that it helps Snowylad to reconnect to us, or perhaps I should say, reconnect back to me (he's always connected to his mum), after the connection was seemingly lost after he began attending infantcare.
He looks at me more, and he approaches me to carry him a lot now.
PS : like Ur, the birthdate on my multiply profile is not my actual birthdate.
For some reason, your blog doesn't show up in my new messages/posts tab in Multiply. I had no idea you have been writing regularly.
ReplyDeletePersonally I don't celebrate birthdays. Some people find it weird that I don't. Some well-meaning colleagues even tried to celebrate it for me once before, not knowing that while I appreciate the thought, I am in truth quite uncomfortable. I am not sure why that is. On the one hand I feel my birthday on one level is simply another date, and not worth making an event out of it. On the other, birthdays to me are for my loved ones. If anyone should celebrate my birthday it should be them. So my past birthdays have in the main been non-events. I don't do anything different on that day. I do, however, on my birthdays think of those who have celebrated with me in the years gone by.
Ah, finally, confirmation. I suspected something of that nature, but I have no way of finding out. Let me check with the Multiply staff. Thanks for letting me know.
ReplyDeleteBirthdays are just a way of marking milestones on our life. It is up to us to make what we will.
ReplyDeleteFor some reason its not all of your posts. Example, your post about Snowylass' accident appeared, so did the one about the Zoo.
ReplyDeleteI do however enjoy celebrating for others, I tend to prefer to do so in a small personal way, like giving a gift or perhaps doing something special for that person. Probably because of my own preference, I try to be more sensitive about whether the other person wants to be reminded of the day, let alone celebrate it.
ReplyDeleteAs I grow older I tend to see my personal birthdays less as milestones. I would however see children's birthdays as milestones.
Birthday doesn't mean a lot to me, I think enough parties when I'm young .
ReplyDeleteI agree... although "round counts" (25, 30, 35, 40 ...) do act as milestones for many people (just talk with a lady who is 39 about what it is to be 40...). On the other hand, for me, the memories of my birthdays depend a lot more on the "local context" (how I felt at that time) than on my actual age. For instance, 25 and 35 were very bad and lonely birthdays, but this had very little to do with the age of 25 and 35. On the other hand, lots of people hate 40, for me, it was probably my best birthday party, good food close to home (a spanish restaurant) with my close circle (children and gf), 不亦樂乎
ReplyDeleteYes, lot's of ladies prefer to hide their age. But I'm glad I'm not one of them because they've to added a lot of pressure to their lives.
ReplyDeleteNo pressure, definitely no pressure... still have a time of my life... what milestone. hah!
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